The challenge of love is not the things I give. It’s the things I give up.
What ground have I given for love?
Both of my children have me as their mom, but they weren’t raised exactly the same. Because they are unique, and separate in their needs, I learned quickly to parent them each according to their personality. Life just isn’t easy and smooth as we raise our children, and my experience confirms that. Someone told me, as I left the hospital after my son was born, that children teach us how to care for them. They have been wonderful teachers, and I think it’s amazing that they live with the mistakes I made, and have been extraordinarily patient with my imperfect ways. Mothers and children give ground for each other.
I think a lot these days of my mom. She gave and gave as I grew up, and she still does. As we now struggle to support her walk through cancer, she helps us know what she needs. Love here is to sacrifice what I wish for what is real.
Do I demonstrate love? When have I?
- kept my lips shut when my mind was racing
- given unselfish time
- Waited And then waited some more
- Told you the truth
- Said “I’m sorry”, when what I wanted to say is ” But”
- Not had enough, but have offered what I have
- Had all the answers, but didn’t share them with anyone.
Worth more thought.